5 Ways to know if you’re ready for couples therapy.
In my work with my clients, I typically see a lot of these 5 issues when they come into therapy. Some are slightly more serious than others. These 5 things are good identifiers to look for to see if you’re ready for couples therapy.
You see your partner as a source of stress as opposed to a source of stress relief.
This is one of the most important questions I always ask my clients. How do you see your partner? As a source of stress or stress relief? Now, this does not have to hold true in every area of your life. Sometimes we all need a bit of alone time. BUT… when you think of your partner and sigh, get anxious, frustrated, irritated, or annoyed. There’s something your body is telling you.
Couples therapy can help you both explore this feeling. What is it about your partner that brings up these feelings? Is it how they respond to you when you ask for help (help can be simply talking about work, stressful events, fixing something, etc)? Whatever it is, it is important to explore this feeling. It can grow into a mold that seeps its way into the foundation of your relationship. After years, it can be unrecoverable.
You have talked about making improvements in your relationship but don’t know where to start.
If you have reached this stage of talking to your partner about improving your relationship, that’s great! That is further ahead than most people get. You’re probably on your way to improving. Knowing where to make improvements can be hard. Sometimes an outsider can help identify problems and solutions.
P.s… it’s risky to use a friend or family to help fix your relationship because they have an emotional connection with you. They’ll likely tell you what you want to hear as opposed to helping you find the solution for yourself.
You’re searching for articles like “How do I fix my relationship?”
If you have reached this point of finding this article through a google search, there’s probably a reason why. You know your relationship has some work to improve. Self-help guides are… well… iffy (to put it gently). Most are generic. Not because they’re not knowledgeable or bad writers but because they have to be to fit everyone. There can be helpful takeaways from them though and places to start. However, more precise and direct help may be necessary to really work out the kinks in your relationship.
If you want to read our article on simple steps to start improving your relationship, Read here!
You thought about having a baby to fix your relationship.
You may laugh at this one but it happens way more than you think (and way more than it should happen). I’ll put it here. A baby won’t fix your relationship. but my friend had a baby and it fixed theirs is goo-… no. Don’t do it. If you want a baby. Great. Work on your relationship issues first. Don’t bring that chaos into that babies life.
You’re thinking of splitting up.
If you’re at this point. It is probably at a time to seek outside help. Unless you’re just planning on breaking up. If you’re thinking about breaking up but don’t want to. Seek some assistance. It can be very hard for a couple to come back from this point without assistance. Break free of the revolving door your relationship is stuck in.
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Want some vulnerable questions to ask your partner? Read here!
