What if I said you didn’t need to ask the same boring questions in your relationship? "How was your day?" "What do you want for dinner?" "Did you remember to take out the trash?" Boooooring! It's time to spice things up and get real with some vulnerable questions. No, I'm not talking about asking your partner about their favorite color or what they had for breakfast (although if that's still a mystery to you, maybe start there). I'm talking about getting deep and personal, asking the questions that make you both squirm in your seats and maybe even shed a tear or two. So buckle up and get ready to dive into the uncomfortable but oh-so-rewarding world of vulnerable questions for your relationship. Unless they’re a little too vulnerable. Don’t ask those.

Questions about personal fears and insecurities:

• What scares you the most about our relationship?

• When do you feel most vulnerable in our relationship?

• What is something you’re afraid to tell me?

• Have you ever been hurt in a past relationship? How has that affected your current relationship with me?

• Is there anything you worry about when it comes to our future together?

• Do you have any insecurities about your physical appearance that affect your confidence in our relationship?

• Are there any moments in our relationship where you feel insecure or unsure about how I feel about you?

• What is your biggest fear about being in a committed relationship?

• Have you ever felt like you weren't good enough for me or that I deserved someone better?

• Do you ever worry that our differences might become a problem in the future?

Questions about past traumas or difficult experiences:

• What is one of the hardest experiences you’ve been through?

• How has your past shaped the way you approach relationships?

• Is there something from your past that still affects you today?

• Have you ever felt triggered by something I did or said? Can you tell me about it?

• How has your past affected the way you communicate with me?

• Is there something from your past that you haven't fully processed yet? How can I support you in that process?

• Are there any specific ways that you need me to be mindful of your past experiences in our relationship?

• How has your past affected your expectations of relationships in general?

• Have you ever felt like you couldn't fully trust me because of something in your past? Can we talk about it?

• What role do you see your past playing in our future together?

Questions about values and beliefs:

• What is one value you hold that you feel is important for our relationship?

• How has your upbringing influenced your beliefs about love and relationships?

• Are there any religious or spiritual beliefs that are important to you?

• How important is honesty and communication in a relationship to you?

• Is it important for you to have similar political views with your partner?

• What is your view on marriage and commitment?

• How important is family to you?

• Do you believe in forgiveness in a relationship?

• How important is financial stability to you in a relationship?

• Do you believe in having separate interests in a relationship?

Questions about goals and dreams:

• What is something you’ve always wanted to achieve but have been too scared to pursue?

• Where do you see our relationship in five years?

• What is a dream of yours that you haven’t shared with anyone else?

• What is a goal you have for our relationship?

• What is a dream vacation you’ve always wanted to take?

• What is a career goal you have for yourself?

• How do you see yourself growing personally in the next few years?

• What is a creative passion you have that you want to pursue more?

• What is a new hobby or interest you’d like to try?

• What is a charitable cause you’d like to support together as a couple?

Questions about the relationship itself:

• What is one thing you wish we did more of as a couple?

• What is one thing you think we need to work on in our relationship?

• What is something you appreciate about our relationship that you’ve never told me about before?

• What is one thing you’d like to change about how we communicate?

• How can we make our intimacy more meaningful and fulfilling?

• What is something new you’d like to try in our relationship?

• How can we support each other better in our individual goals?

• What is a meaningful way we can celebrate important milestones in our relationship?

• How can we prioritize spending quality time together despite our busy schedules?

• What is a new way we can express our love and appreciation for each other?